Men Who Cheat

Clearly the reasons men cheat are both numerous and complex.  Nonetheless, experts generally agree that men who cheat often cheat for one or more of the following motives.

Here are 6 reasons men cheat.

1. Emotional Detachment

Studies suggest that men who cheat do so because they do not feel appreciated.  They feel that their wife or girlfriend does not show them the warmth and the understanding that they need.  According to psychologists, this is complicated by the fact that men are far less likely than women to actually communicate their needs.  As a result, men who consistently believe they are taken for granted may become more likely of having an affair.

This sense of insecurity is soothed, at least initially, when someone else pays attention to them or strokes their ego.  Unfortunately, for these men who cheat, many of them realize too late that instead of seeking comfort from someone else, they simply should have communicated with their partner.

If there is a good side to this, it is that these situations may be the most susceptible to reconciliation.

2. Unhappy Relationship

Another of the more common reasons men cheat stems from unhappiness in their relationship.  Men who cheat may believe that when a relationship is boring or no longer exciting, they need to seek a more desirable partner.  If they feel they are not receiving what they need from their wife or girlfriend, these men seek someone else to fill the role.  Unfortunately these cheating men conclude that it is easier to seek relief outside of the relationship than it is to deal with the troubles of that relationship. 

3. Fear of Intimacy

Some men feel vulnerable to intimacy and closeness.  These men who cheat on their wives or girlfriends, actually do so to avoid emotional involvement.  Having an affair becomes a means to avoid attachment and dependency.

4. Ego Boosting

Men who cheat are often enticed by the power to attract a variety of women.  These cheating men are driven by their ability to conquest of an endless array of women.  What better way to boost a sagging ego, even if it is at the expense of their relationship.

5. Men Cheating for the Sake of Cheating

Regrettably, some men who cheat see it as nothing more than a game.  The challenges of pursuit, the excitement of attracting women who will cheat, and the power to deceive a partner, take on such intensity that they overtake the importance of the affair itself or even their relationship. 

6. Punishment

Men who cheat sometimes just want to "get even", to punish their wife or girlfriend for conceived pain or injustice.  There is perhaps no greater punishment than to retaliate by having an affair.