Women Who Cheat

Women who cheat are more likely to do so for emotional reasons.  While a man's motive for cheating is often tied to physical satisfaction, cheating women are more likely to be motivated by loneliness, insecurity, boredom – even revenge.

Women cheat because they are looking for emotional support or emotional intimacy.  They want a man who is attentive, a man who makes them feel attractive and understood.  Women who cheat often do so because they feel neglected or lonely in their relationship, and they search for emotional intimacy outside of that relationship.

Women who cheat out of revenge do so when their partner has cheated on them.  Women cheating for revenge sometimes believe that when the man has cheated on them, this gives them justification to do likewise.  In other cases, women who cheat for revenge are driven by the intensity of their own pain.  Their reaction is to seek a means to hurt their man as deeply as he has hurt them.

While there are many reasons women cheat, following are some of the most common motives.

1. Feelings of Insecurity

When women feel that their man no longer admires them, these feelings of insecurity may motivate them to cheat.  While women with high self esteem are more likely to work through these issues, women who suffer from self doubt, or who feel helpless in their relationship, may seek satisfaction elsewhere.  Their motive is to find a man who will enhance their attractiveness and their desirability.  The affair, or so they believe, makes them feel beautiful and appealing.  Unfortunately these types of affairs often have the tendency to simply intensify the original insecurities.

2. A Sense of Neglect

Perhaps the most common of reasons women cheat is the belief that they are taken for granted.  They feel more like a servant than a partner either because the man spends most of time elsewhere, and/or because he simply fails to live up to his end of the bargain.  In fact, this indifference, this neglect, fuels a lack of communication which in turn motivates a woman to look outside of the relationship for satisfaction.

3. The Passion is Gone
 
Over time, all relationships change.  The key is the relationship needs to mature, not stagnate.  Unfortunately, women who cheat often do so out of boredom.  The passion and excitement of the early days has given way to monotony.  In How to Improve A Relaionship? Restore the Passion we discuss the power of passion to restore a relationship.  And yet, when couples focus on problems rather than passion some women are tempted to find passion by way of an affair.  These trysts are so driven by passion and excitement, that some women are willing to risk their relationship or marriage for sake of the affair.  Unfortunately, the intensity of the affair is often short lived.

4. Lingering Disappointment

Whether justified or not, disappointment or disillusion motivates some cheating women.  In contrast to what they see in their partner, they seek companionship with a man who they believe is more successful.  Unfortunately these types of affairs frequently surface either because the woman believed he would change or because she really never understood him from the beginning.  Two losing propositions indeed.

5. Living Separate Lives

Unfortunately when a man spends more time away from a woman than with her, the odds of her connecting with someone else are greatly enhanced.  Women are emotional beings.  When her needs and interests are satisfied outside of her relationship, she may well discover the comfort an emotional bond that does not exist at home.

6. A Means to an End

Women who cheat may do so when they sense that their man has become emotionally detached.  In her mind, the relationship breakup is inevitable.  Rather than seeking a means to save the relationship, she cheats.  She justifies that this is easier than breaking up, and it gives her time to move on at her own pace.